Getting Over Yourself And Ask For Help: A Wake Up Call For Children's Ministry Leaders

I know that title is bold, but so is the work you're called to do.

This week, I found myself reflecting on a sobering truth: many Children’s Ministry leaders are drowning in silence—not because help isn’t available, but because they refuse to ask for it.

Let me say this plainly: we must get over ourselves and ask for the help we need.

I get it. Asking for help is uncomfortable. It exposes our limitations. It means we can’t do it all. It means people might say no. And for many of us, that terrifies us more than the weight we’re carrying. Whether it’s issues with confrontation, fear of rejection, not wanting to inconvenience others, or believing the lie that “I should be able to handle this”—we stay silent and suffer alone.

But here’s the truth: your silence is not strength. It’s sabotage.

You are not a machine. You are a minister and ministers are not called to martyr themselves in the name of ministry.

Some of you are exhausted—not because God hasn’t provided help—but because you’ve refused to reach for it. Some of you are running on empty—not because the vision is too big—but because your pride won’t allow anyone else to touch the steering wheel. Some of you are one honest conversation away from being replenished—but you keep smiling through breakdowns and wearing “fine” like a badge of honor while your soul whispers, This isn’t working.

Let me remind you: Even Jesus asked for help.

In the garden, He brought friends with Him. On the cross, He cried out to the Father. If the Son of God—perfect and divine—modeled humility and dependence, who are we to walk around acting like we’ve got it all under control?

Children’s Ministry is not small work. It is spiritual warfare. It is front-line Kingdom building. It is the work of shaping hearts before the world can deform them. It’s holy. It’s heavy. And it was never meant to be carried alone.

So let me lovingly challenge you:

• If you need more volunteers—ask.

• If you need your pastor to advocate for your ministry—speak up.

• If you need a Sunday off—take it.

• If you need someone to check in on your mental or emotional health—invite them in.

• If you’re burned out and need boundaries—draw them.

  
  

Don’t let pride or fear rob you of the help God has already made available. Don’t let rejection keep you in a prison that God has already unlocked.

Sometimes, the greatest act of leadership isn’t doing more—it’s admitting you can’t do it alone.

So this week, take inventory. What do you need? Where are you overwhelmed? Who can you ask?

Then do the bravest thing you can do: Open your mouth and ask.

Your ministry will be stronger.Your heart will be lighter.And your obedience will honor the God who never asked you to carry it all in the first place.

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